Making your career into your whole life, or your identity, is a good way to destroy yourself and also your loved ones.

Making your family into your whole life, or your identity, is an equally good way to destroy yourself and also your loved ones.

…I mean, probably.  There are people for whom those paths work.  But it’s not super common. 

The first step to wisdom involves figuring out who you actually are, which entails learning that you can’t just cling to a one-size-fits-all model of the Good Life in the expectation that it will actually be Good.